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F.E.A.R. or F.E.A.R.?

 
Author: Ken Donaldson

Fear...a bodily reaction of heightened awareness and increased sympathetic nervous system activity as a result of a perceived threat. In other words, if you think something might hurt you, you start to feel fear.

Part of the key to managing fear is to discern as to the degree of the perceived threat. Our tendency at times seems to create a reactionary Fictitious Event Appearing Real (F.E.A.R.) image that is not based in reality but activates our fear none-the-less.

Our mind, as wonderful as it is, has great difficulty in discerning between what is real and what is imagined. It tends to believe that it is all real and activates the "fight or flight" systems in our bodies that then prepares us to go into battle.

We are then often left "being all dressed with no where to go" because the threat was not real at all. This reaction, however, takes a toll on us in that it tears at our immune system, and provokes us to walk through life in varying degrees of unnecessary fear.

There is another F.E.A.R. that we can choose: Face Everything And Respond.

The primary difference is that this is a model of choice, and that it comes from a place of consciousness. It is the realization that your initial reaction may not be reality based.

Instead of reacting, this is a model of responding. Sometimes this is as simple as asking yourself, "Is it true?", or, "Where is the evidence?" When you begin to really look, you will often find that your initial reaction may have been more intense and irrational than necessary.

Another great question to ask yourself when you start to feel fear is, "And then what?" This allows you to play this preconceived threat through. What you will often find is that you can and will respond in a completely adaptable and appropriate manner to the stimulus. In other words, you will handle it and everything will be okay.

If there was one affirming phrase I could plant in everyone's mind, it would be, "I can handle it..." When you are able to say that to yourself as a self-intervention, even if you do not fully believe it, your mind starts to believe it. You have then begun to create a different and more positive response. In fact, you may realize that there is no threat at all.

So, you have a choice: F.E.A.R. or F.E.A.R. I know which one you desire and I support you in creating a life of freedom through conscious responsiveness and self-intervention.

Author Bio:

Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying ?I Do? to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson?s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson?s primary message from this book is to ?Master Your Life and Your Relationships!? Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.

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